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The desire to do the right thing is often confused with the need to make them perfectly. Already said Joan Manuel Serrat in that crazy little song: “Child, do not say that, do not do that that do not touch”. And since we are constantly corrects small. And adults, at work we are measured by results.
The social message we receive is clear: to find happiness, we must move away from the mean and aim to highlight the success. The list of demands is endless: attractive, lean, muscular, seductive or winners … The result: we compared ideals can lead to unnecessary frustration.
Feel comfortable with your personality
Aspiring to be more entrepreneurial , less shy or less proud is well , in that is personal challenge: to try to improve the most malleable and assume the defects that we can not change .
So where is the problem? It occurs when a person’s efforts to improve not fructify and end in disappointment, frustration or unhappiness, the opposite of what pursued. But here is the feeling of guilt, which usually is useless and does not solve anything.
Faced with this attitude so demanding, there is another more balanced and healthy behavior, the person who runs away from the ends, which is not too careful, you do not need to have great successes to be happy and feel happy how it is. Be better used know and accept their strengths and flaws. Maybe you can imitate?
What is your level of self?
Answer the following questions by ticking the response with which you identify , and find out if your desire to improve yourself is a problem in the development of your life or if , on the contrary , not afraid to make mistakes.
1. When you send an e – mail, which of the following attitudes best fits your behavior?
(a) Before sending reread it several times and I worry about correct spelling.
(b) As long as you have, I spend more or less effort.
(c) I write to run, as it exits.
2. In a team effort see a mate who commits an error by mistake. What do you think of it?
(a) You do not give any importance to his attitude. We all can occur.
(b) Mentally you reject and stop considering it valid.
(c) You try to help and advise you did my best.
3. In love what definition you come in handy?
(a) I am happy with my partner despite its flaws.
(b) I’m not too picky.
(c) I do not agree because I crave even find the right partner.
4. They invite you to a family meal. The problem is you’re making scheme…
(a) I bring my lunch in a lunchbox to not skip the diet.
(b) I try to eat as tight to my diet that day.
(c) I skip the regime and the next day I make up.
5. When you have interest in a subject, how do you act?
(a) I read something and I learn to get a general idea.
(b) I deepen and do not stop reading everything I can find about it.
(c) I read one or two books and ask the opinion of others for contrast.
6. You’re cleaning the house and get to the end under the bed. What are you doing?
(a) The next time you try and wipe clean, particularly the part that I can not.
(b) Clean as far as I and the rest I leave. Overall, no guests will be dedicated to look under the bed!
(c) I ask my neighbor to help me move the bed so that there is nothing dirty.
7. How it affects you that you know you made? A reproach?
(a) Can not stand. I sink the mood for several days.
(b) It all depends on my conscience and if I’m happy with my attitude.
(c) Do not usually give too much importance to the opinion of others. Surely they made a mistake of interpretation.
8. To feel satisfied with what you do, you need…
(a) Just have hoped to do no matter the outcome.
(b) Perform the activity to perfection so that nobody can say anything about your work.
(c) That others like it and give me their approval. If you do not get it, what fatal step.
9. Been several days away from home and it’s all a mess. I called a friend because it is close and wants to go see you.
(a) Try to delay his visit to give me time to put the house decent.
(b) The receipt delighted, and when it comes joke about the mess of the house and I take importance.
(c) With apologies, I propose to see us because they did not want you to see all the clutter.
10. Sales outside and you realize you’re wearing a stain on his pants. What are you doing?
(a) I go back home and change immediately.
(b) Attempt to hide stretch jersey.
(c) Prepare a joke to exit gracefully if anyone notices.
11. You invite some friends over for dinner and we prepare paella. To prepare you realize you forgot the prawns. What are you doing?
(a) Serve without saying anything … maybe not realizes.
(b) I ran to the nearest facility to buy them.
(c) I say jokingly that rose shrimp while fishing is not allowed.
12. You are ready to travel when you call the company and tell you that the flight is delayed one day. How do you take it?
(a) Dedicate a day to reschedule the trip for the delay hurt me the least.
(b) I accept it with good humor and I intend to not let anything spoil my vacation.
(c) Fatal overwhelms me that I lack time to meet the program planned.
13. Going to the movies and you discover a bug in the film. What do you think?
(a) I am no longer interested in the film.
(b) It seems a curious anecdote to comment.
(c) Do not give any importance and forget it immediately.
14. You are filling in a form and write your name in the box you see out of space. What are you doing?
(a) Nothing, with sufficient identification.
(b) Take another form and write my name, this time trying to make the letter smaller size.
(c) Continue to write overflowing boxes next.
SCORE
1. A 10 b 5 c 0
2. 0 b 10 c 5
3. a 5 b 0 c 10
4. a 10 b 5 c 0
5. 0 b 10 c 5
6. a 5 b 0 c 10
7. a 10 b 5 c 0
8. 0 b 10 c 5
9. a 5 b 0 c 10
10. a 10 b 5 c 0
11. 0 b 10 c 5
12. a 5 b 0 c 10
13. a 10 b 5 c 0
14. 0 b 10 c 5
RESULTS
From 0 to 45 points
Above all, enjoy
Congratulations, because no doubt you’ve found the key to help you enjoy life. Know you out the best match and accept the unexpected as they come; sure in all situations see the positive. You do not stand in the details and you prefer to get down to business. In short, I like you just the way you are, what continues to be a first step to successfully overcome the various facets of life.
From 50 to 95 points
You flexible with your expectations
You are at a point of equilibrium. Doesn’t worry do things perfectly or you are a careless person. Generally you run from the excessive and rigid attitudes prove to your expectations. Get things with little effort you more satisfaction than spending too much effort. So employ your time better.
From 100 to 140 points
Limits your life much perfection
Surely in your daily life you can not avoid details which must be corrected, a distorted picture, a badly ironed shirt, etc. . . . Normally you are aware of everything, and this, of course, does not help you fully enjoy life because things do not work out when you want, and you prevent overflow you recognize your worth. Your self-esteem is linked to the achievement of achievement. A tip: relax and not be so picky with you or others. Dare to make mistakes.
Correct your mistakes
If you’ve come to the conclusion that the scale is unbalanced and disadvantages of maintaining an attitude affect you too picky note some strategies to reduce the destructive aspects of perfectionism and enjoy those that are positive:
Try to analyze things from different perspectives. Put yourself in the situation of another person lets go of that perfectionist attitude undoing.
Do not Marques unrealistic goals or impossible to get.
Flexible Show yourself your mistakes and avoid seeing things from the perspective of “all” or “nothing”.
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